Thursday, December 19, 2013

Wide Angled Lens

The wide angled lens view is the best. I'm telling you, its the way to go.

When I look back at 2013 and all of its gloriousness, its endless joys and pronounced trials, I feel grateful for this lens. I know you can all relate to the feeling of one day feeling on top of the world only for the next day to feel like you are in the deepest valley. It's amazing how quickly it can turn around like that sometimes isn't it?

Let me tell you something…I promise you….you are NOT a freak. This is normal. This is human. This is life. After having a very long and meaningful conversation with my little sister last night, I found myself feeling really grateful that God has shown me this wide view lens of my life when I am feeling pitifully low. You ever notice that when you are feeling low and can't seem to shake it, that it is usually due to ONE situation or ONE person or ONE circumstance? While that one thing means so much to you and consumes you, that's just it…It's ONE thing. A thing that needs to be isolated from the rest of goodness. Admittedly, there are times where it seems like that one thing is thousands of things piling on you like sand pouring on the top of your head, like the world is out to get you and you can't catch a break..or a breath. Guys, I promise you, the world isn't out to eat you for lunch. This is where the wide angled lens thing comes into play.

When I look at the 'burden' of whatever it is that is weighing me down at the moment, I force myself to take a step back and look at all the treasures in my life. Out of that ONE thing that is burdening my soul so deeply, why can't these MILLIONS of other joys that surround me every day effect me in the opposite spirit? Because you have to acknowledge that they are there. You have to set that one thing aside that is taking your joy and CHOOSE to breath in love. Choose to breath in goodness. Choose to see only the goodness of that moment. If you choose to live in the darkness of your circumstance, then you deserve to feel the way you feel.

In my opinion, the best cure for getting oneself out of the lowest of lows is to FORCE yourself to go do a random act of kindness, even though its the last thing you feel like doing. And then when you're done with that. Do another one. I guarantee, making someone else feel good, despite feeling sad or broken….will turn that ugliness in your mindset into something better, and will make you see things from a much broader perspective.

Yeah, yeah, random acts of kindness. Cliché you say? Maybe, but suck it up, maybe its cliché because its true.

I speak from the experience of tremendous peaks and valleys, this helps. Do the opposite of what that negativity wants you to do. Surround yourself with people that make you happy, even if you want to close yourself in a dark basement. Get in your car, play the lamest Brittany Spears song you can muster at full blast and sing it at the top of your lungs…especially at stop lights when people are looking at you. And make sure your window is rolled down....and that you are wearing a pink tutu.  After your friend springs you from the insane asylum, you can look back at the moment and realize...yep, that was funny and it definitely took my mind off of that thing.

I know there are times in life where you need to grieve. Like I said, we are only human. Give yourself time to grieve or mourn, or shake an insecurity. But don't live there. Live in love, live in faith and live in the joy of the smallest things.

It will be ok <3. :)